- Many people are embarrassed to admit their problems or procrastinate to the extreme. What alarm bells are there to turn to a psychologist?
When a person needs help, support? When the challenges of the outside world are greater than the ability to cope with them. And then you need support in the form of self-regulation. In fact, the whole work is crisis support. It's about a person exploring themselves with the help of another. What do I have? What skills can I learn to cope with this life?
In our culture, I would call this post-Soviet culture, to go to a psychologist, "you have to have a very weighty problem." Going to a psychologist like going to a dentist is not preventive. To continue with the dentist analogy, it's better not to wait until you have a flux and go straight for treatment.
I think that if a person notices that he or she starts to forget something, or is poorly oriented in time and space, or is haunted by memories in the form of flashbacks, disturbed sleep, eating... All these can be considered as symptoms. The body is telling you that something is not right. So it needs help. There are trained people who can help with this.
As a practitioner, I will tell you that any strong change or shock in life, especially one like emigration, is good to have psychological support. Maybe in a one-time counseling format, maybe in a short-term work format of 5 - 10 sessions.
These are the main points to look at for your health and seek help. But to go to therapy, you need a resource, you need motivation. Sometimes a person is in such a state that everyone gives him addresses and numbers, but in a crisis he can't do it. And that's the problem with psychological help. You can't force a person to go to therapy.
- In the last year, that is, since the beginning of the war, have people started to seek psychological help more often?
- Yes, of course. It's been a remarkable fact. From February 24, 2022, there has been much more work.
- Any wishes or advice for our readers?
- Psychologists don't give advice. You have to be on your side. If it seems like support is needed, it is not. If a person thinks they need help, that's the start of doing something. Go talk about it in a close circle of people, ask friends, see if anyone has had a similar experience. Search for answers. For some, the answer may be therapy, and for others it may be enough for someone to share their problem with them. It's also important to look after yourself and navigate time and space!